Then you’re like most parents who have at some point in time, allowed their child to run the show. When this happens, most children learn to control and manipulate their parents through fear. The child figures if they scream and yell enough, then that they’ll get what they want. If not properly dealt with, then your life as a parent will not only be one endless hair pulling experience but your child is bound to lose out on learning the behavioral skills necessary to navigate through adulthood. A child should not be allowed to control an adult’s behavior through intimidation or the threat of a tantrum.
But by simply changing your mindset and how your parenting approach, you can quickly change your child’s challenging behavior. In order to the regain control, you must start by re-teaching the behavior you’d like your child to have. Parents need to stop talking, stop explaining, and certainly stop arguing. Instead of competing, follow these three simple but fundamental concepts to more effectively change your child’s behavior.
1.) • Simple
• Give directions in less than 3 seconds
• Once a direction is clear, a child can only comply or defy
• If the child complies, give a compliment
• If the child defies, consequence your child for immediate accountability
2.) • Respectful
• Model good behavior
• Remain calm
• Take space if upset
3.) • Consistent
• Make no exceptions
• Treat children the same
• Get adults on the same page
Remember, parenting is a learning process that we requires constant monitoring and refinement of not only our children, but of ourselves as parents as well.
Sincerely,
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